IMPORTANT THINKINGS

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ilovecharts:

Here’s the bottom line: We’re making progress, but the gender pay gap still exists at all income levels, and widens as people get older.
Highly-educated women with professional degrees tend to begin their careers at approximately the same salary level as their male counterparts, but as their careers progress, a gender gap opens up. By their late 30’s, men with professional degrees earn 50% more than their female counterparts.
So how do we fix that? Beginning with the first bill he signed into law, President Obama’s been fighting to help women receive the pay they deserve. But he can’t do it all by himself. Congress needs to act to help ensure equal pay for women.
That’s all for today! I hope you enjoyed our charts. I had a blast. —Betsey

ilovecharts:

Here’s the bottom line: We’re making progress, but the gender pay gap still exists at all income levels, and widens as people get older.

Highly-educated women with professional degrees tend to begin their careers at approximately the same salary level as their male counterparts, but as their careers progress, a gender gap opens up. By their late 30’s, men with professional degrees earn 50% more than their female counterparts.

So how do we fix that? Beginning with the first bill he signed into law, President Obama’s been fighting to help women receive the pay they deserve. But he can’t do it all by himself. Congress needs to act to help ensure equal pay for women.

That’s all for today! I hope you enjoyed our charts. I had a blast. —Betsey

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Stick Around

sarabenincasa:

When I was 17, the hottest kid in the entire world was this guy I knew at Governor’s School (basically an academic summer camp funded by the state). I’ll call him Kevin because he was Irish and that seems like a good Irish name. He was really smart and popular and athletic, and he had the most…

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Some Therapists/Psychiatrists in LA: Let’s Get a Directory Going

Because a number of people have reached out to me for therapist/psychiatrist recommendations, I decided I would compile the several resources I’ve gathered from my friends’ Facebook feeds in case anyone’s looking for help right now in LA. Please post your own recommendations in the replies, and I will keep updating this list as they roll in. Getting help is hard, let’s make it a little easier.

I’m also happy to include other cities or links to other resources. This is a small start, but let’s blow it up. Also, never forget to ask about sliding scale or discounts for low income patients when you speak to a mental health professional, you never know. And always ask about phone sessions if distance or transportation is an issue.

ANOTHER IMPORTANT THING my friend Kristin reminded me of that is really worth remembering when you begin the process of getting help: 

"It is important to remember that you need to feel comfortable around your therapist in order to get the help you need. I have a super strong connection with my therapist, but I’ve been through 4 therapists to find the right one. If you feel uncomfortable around your therapist, ask your therapist to help you find another therapist that you do feel comfortable with. Therapists are trained to handle these awkward situations professionally and will help you find another therapist that is better suited for you if things don’t work out with them. Just be honest and it’ll be ok.”

I found my therapist and psychiatrist through my insurance’s online directory (Anthem Blue Cross) and through recommendations, and they are:

Dr. Richard Weinstein (therapist) - I also know he takes WGA insurance. 13323 W Washington Blvd #200, Los Angeles, CA 90066 (310) 577-9774 

Dr. Leon Sones. Does both therapy and prescribing. 435 N Bedford Dr, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 Phone: (310) 276-6701

I obviously cannot guarantee any of these doctors will be the perfect fit for you, but they’re a good place to start, and can often recommend others. All of the folks below were recommended by satisfied patients. Good luck!

therapick.com - This website matches you with a local therapist based on your needs and likes, like match.com for therapists.

The Wright Institute - they will work with you on a sliding scale, 9911 W Pico Blvd #720, Los Angeles, CA 90035, (310) 277-2796.

The Maple Center. www.tmcc.org/ The Maple Counseling Center (TMCC) provides low fee counseling to people in Los Angeles on an outpatient basis 9107 Wilshire Blvd, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 (310) 247-4900

Counseling West. Counseling West provides low cost counseling services in the San Fernando Valley. 4419 Van Nuys Blvd, Sherman Oaks, CA 91403 (818) 990-9898
Southern California Counseling Center. http://sccc-la.org/ 5615 West Pico Boulevard Los Angeles, CA 90019. (323) 937-1344 SLIDING SCALE.

Women’s Clinic and Family Counseling Center. http://www.womens-clinic.org/contact.php. 310-203-8899, ext 100 for medical, ext 103 for mental health counseling. 9911 W. Pico Boulevard Suite 500 Los Angles, CA 90035. SLIDING SCALE.

***A NOTE FROM A PATIENT***Sometimes there is a wait list to see a therapist. I had a 1 month wait before I was assigned a therapist. They will talk to you on the phone for about 1 hr before they assign you to a therapist because they want to make sure they match you with a therapist that is best suited for your specific needs. I’m not sure if they help men, but I’m sure if you call them they can refer you to helpful and affordable counseling centers for men.

The LA LGBTCenter. http://www.lalgbtcenter.org/mental_health_services. They have a thorough directory of private therapists, you do not have to be LGBT to ask for help.
Gary Fisher. Addiction Specialist. 11340 West Olympic Blvd Suite 207 LA CA 90064 (310) 200-8314. http://dis-easeofaddiction.com/
Wendy Ortiz. MFTI. (213) 503-1729. 3814 Dunn Drive Culver City, CA 90232.  wendy@wendyortiztherapy.com. SLIDING SCALE.

Oleg Liflyandsky M.D. Works out of Cedars Sanai and has an office nearby the hospital. (310) 535-7733. 

Debbie Lipchik MA MFCC. On Sawtelle Blvd. in West LA. She does individual & couples (some group)… and gives excellent referrals. (310) 231-0356

Jennifer Pond. http://www.drjenniferpond.com/ Clinical psychologist. 5012 Chesebro Rd Ste 201 Agoura Hills CA 91301

Mari Marks. Psychologist. 11911 San Vicente Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90049 (310) 472-2523. http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Mari_Marks_PhD_Los+Angeles_California_78007 

Gloria Dahlquist. Licensed Marital & Family Therapist. 4405 Riverside Dr #203, Burbank, CA 91505 (949) 244-3674

Rick Grant-Coons. Clinical psychologist.6404 Wilshire Blvd Suite 520 Los Angeles, CA 90048 http://drrickcoons.com/site/Welcome.html (323)-600-3348  rick@drrickcoons.com 

Alison Roven. MFT. 2336 Malcolm Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90064 (310) 845-6957

Melissa Richman. Psy.D, LCSW. 9201 Wilshire Blvd #203, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 DRMAR@mindtx.org (310) 278-9702 

Jaimie Schweitzer. PHD. 16055 Ventura Blvd #1220, Encino, CA 91436 (818) 906-1103

Tess Hightower.  566 S. San Vincente Boulevard Suite 203
Los AngelesCalifornia 90048 and 4322 Bakman Aveenue 
Studio CityCalifornia 91602
 (424) 888-7811 
Howard F. Blumenfeld. PHD. 5636 Gentry Ave, Valley Village, CA 91607 (818) 487-3773 (MPI $5 copay)
Ginger Clark. (310) 281-6059 (714) 898-0362 Works in Long Beach. ginger.clark@usc.edu  (MPI $5 copay)
Samantha Fox. Psy.D. 360 N Bedford Dr, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 (310) 278-4330 
Michelle Lang. 3808 Riverside Dr. #503 Burbank‎ CA‎ 91505 (818) 846-7055 (Takes Tier 1 SAG)
Sat Kaur Khalsa. PhD.1452 26th St Suite 202 Santa Monica, CA 90404
(310) 828-2210 
Michael Obarski. PhD. 595 E. Colorado Boulevard Suite 435
PasadenaCalifornia 91101 (626) 385-8982 (626) 577-5635 
Dr. Marchand. PhDhttp://www.drericamarchand.com/ 8170 Beverly Blvd. Ste. 200B Los Angeles, CA  90048 and 2601 W. Alameda Ave. Ste. 412 Burbank, CA  91505 (310) 955-1328
Lyra Barrera, PsyD, Robert Santos, MFT. 143 N. Larchmont Boulevard
Second Floor Los Angeles, CA 90004 http://larchmontassociates.com/
Julie Devi Hale. LMFT, RYT. halejulie@me.com http://www.juliehale.net/

Lee Miller. MFT. (Formerly at Women’s Clinic and Family Counseling Center) 310.614.0323 11911 San Vicente Blvd, 280 LA, CA 90049

Jewish Family Services. All religious welcome. Psychotherapy and Counseling Services 11340 Olympic Blvd. Suite 330 LA, CA 90064
310-868-9711 http://www.jfsla.org/page.aspx?pid=236

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Being Poor and Getting Mental Health Treatment: Please KEEP TRYING

One thing that I quickly want to mention is that it’s especially hard to get mental health help if you’re poor, because the amount of work involved in taking care of yourself is so much greater and filled with so many more obstacles, that many of us just quit. It’s hard to pay for insurance, it’s hard to find an insurance that covers mental health even when you can afford it, not to mention that everything is hard when you’re depressed. It’s cruel how hard it is when that’s precisely the time it should be easy. Poor kids or immigrant kids also often grow up with a biased view of mental illness. We’ll live with it, we say to ourselves, we’re tough, we can do it. When you grow up poor, you are often of the mentality (like I was) that it’s not a “real disease,” like cancer or polio, that there is no time and no money for taking a problem like “feeling sad” or “worrying too much” seriously. But listen: that’s a lie. We often don’t go get help, or don’t continue trying to get help because of the way we grew up, because it wasn’t considered a “real problem.” I can tell you that in my Ukrainian immigrant family, it was so. We often treat mental illness like it can be put on the back burner, but listen: it can’t. Imagine you have a tumor in your brain, and it’s fatal. Because it’s true. Your brain is trying to kill you every day, by telling your brain lies. 

Getting well when you’re poor is so hard. But it is absolutely worth it. You owe it to yourself to KEEP TRYING. Mental health is not a precise science, and that’s also scary and fucking depressing, frankly. It often takes many many tries to to get well, but please keep trying. When I first tried to find medication, I was in college in DC full time, working 2 jobs, and I had to take the train to a free clinic in Virginia. It was so hard to get there I found another doctor. I also went to therapy at the graduate center by my college, which was sliding scale and I paid $10 a session. Those things sound like nothing, but they were monumental achievements. Finding those resources was like swimming in molasses. I had a breakdown over every single one of them. I would cry and rage trying to find a doctor who would take me with no money, trying to plan my appointments around my classes and jobs, trying to keep from cutting myself and throwing shit while filling out a billion approval forms, while taking trains across town, while crying in my boyfriend’s car. Every part of it was hard. It took me more than several attempts with several different psychologists, psychiatrists, medications, and more than 10 years to live a life that doesn’t spiral out of my control at random times. During that time I stopped trying for years, suffering because I couldn’t fathom going through looking for another shrink because I moved, or changed jobs, or lost my insurance. I don’t say KEEP TRYING lightly. I say it with the scars of someone who has and still is. KEEP TRYING KEEP TRYING KEEP TRYING. It should not be harder for you because of your means, and I’m sad that in our society it is, but you gotta KEEP TRYING KEEP TRYING because your life is worth it. I promise that you don’t even know how good it can be. I know I didn’t.

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Robin Williams and Depression

Robin Williams is said to have suffered from severe depression before he took his own life. I’ve been in that boat for a long time myself as a bipolar person, and I cannot emphasize enough how much reaching out to people, and getting professional help helped me. I know how hard it is to find the right therapist, or psychiatrist, or medication, but I also know it is possible. I have found places that were sliding scale, or free, and even though it is immensely hard to work on things like that when you’re depressed, you can do it. You can do it, and there are people who can help. Other friends who struggle with the same thing have often been my lifeline and my perspective, and being there for them helped me too. Consider setting up checking-up-on-each-other rules with a depression buddy. It did eventually get better for me, with a combination of therapy and medication. It’s not a magic fix and I’m not perfect, but my life now is so much happier and more fulfilling than it ever was, and often I pause and marvel at how when I was depressed, I literally couldn’t envision a “normal,” happy life like this. 
One of the hardest things to do when you feel hopeless is to tell someone. Please please take the first step and tell someone. If we’re pals, I will do my best to be there for you. If not, reach out to someone else in your life, and if there’s no one you feel comfortable with, call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You are important. You deserve a full life. Please let help in.

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I love this video the LA Review Books made so much!! They did such a good job capturing what we’re all about. The footage is from the awesome SURPRISE! 2-year anniversary show, and features Ron Babcock and Kristen Studard being hilarious, plus some sweet shots of Johnny Pemberton, Cornell Reid and Identity Crush. Oh and the interview was really fun to do, watch all the way to the end because Rob does a great bit after the credits.

lareviewofbooks:

Comedy veterans Rob Buscemi and Sofiya Alexandra are the founders of a brave new comedy circuit in Los Angeles. They change venues each time, they keep their line-ups secret, and they lure their audiences in with booze, cookies and a promise that things will get weird. There may or may not be an orgy at the end of each show.

The show is called Surprise! Comedy and at its heart it’s about what Buscemi and Alexandra call taking the “scene-y-ness” out of L.A. comedy shows. They say the Surprise! format relieves pressure on both the comics, who don’t have to promote the show or feel the need to impress to earn a spot back (they might be invited again, but not for a while) as well as the audience, which doesn’t pin its hopes on a headliner and meanwhile gets to kick back and enjoy a party.

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#tbt I drove my mom and my grandpa to the cemetery last Friday to for my grandma’s birthday, albeit a couple weeks late. This was the first time he couldn’t walk to her and I struggled to push him in the wheelchair on the bumpy grass in the heat.

#tbt I drove my mom and my grandpa to the cemetery last Friday to for my grandma’s birthday, albeit a couple weeks late. This was the first time he couldn’t walk to her and I struggled to push him in the wheelchair on the bumpy grass in the heat.

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#tbt to last week when I asked @hernia to sign me and @marcellacomedy up at a mic and this is what I saw when I looked at the sign up sheet. Yesterday I asked him with great concern if he was dyslexic and he looked at me like I was crazy and said “I didn’t write that”

#tbt to last week when I asked @hernia to sign me and @marcellacomedy up at a mic and this is what I saw when I looked at the sign up sheet. Yesterday I asked him with great concern if he was dyslexic and he looked at me like I was crazy and said “I didn’t write that”

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#Repost from @marcellacomedy love this bitch
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Talkin shit bout all y’all with this bitch @thesofiya.

#Repost from @marcellacomedy love this bitch —- Talkin shit bout all y’all with this bitch @thesofiya.

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Detective Stabler looked at the weenie wagger with a mixture of disgust and righteous fury.

Detective Stabler looked at the weenie wagger with a mixture of disgust and righteous fury.