Detective Benson thought of the victims first, and of her crunchies second. #professional
Detective Benson thought of the victims first, and of her crunchies second. #professional
When I was 17, the hottest kid in the entire world was this guy I knew at Governor’s School (basically an academic summer camp funded by the state). I’ll call him Kevin because he was Irish and that seems like a good Irish name. He was really smart and popular and athletic, and he had the most…
Because a number of people have reached out to me for therapist/psychiatrist recommendations, I decided I would compile the several resources I’ve gathered from my friends’ Facebook feeds in case anyone’s looking for help right now in LA. Please post your own recommendations in the replies, and I will keep updating this list as they roll in. Getting help is hard, let’s make it a little easier.
I’m also happy to include other cities or links to other resources. This is a small start, but let’s blow it up. Also, never forget to ask about sliding scale or discounts for low income patients when you speak to a mental health professional, you never know. And always ask about phone sessions if distance or transportation is an issue.
ANOTHER IMPORTANT THING my friend Kristin reminded me of that is really worth remembering when you begin the process of getting help:
"It is important to remember that you need to feel comfortable around your therapist in order to get the help you need. I have a super strong connection with my therapist, but I’ve been through 4 therapists to find the right one. If you feel uncomfortable around your therapist, ask your therapist to help you find another therapist that you do feel comfortable with. Therapists are trained to handle these awkward situations professionally and will help you find another therapist that is better suited for you if things don’t work out with them. Just be honest and it’ll be ok.”
I found my therapist and psychiatrist through my insurance’s online directory (Anthem Blue Cross) and through recommendations, and they are:
Dr. Richard Weinstein (therapist) - I also know he takes WGA insurance. 13323 W Washington Blvd #200, Los Angeles, CA 90066 (310) 577-9774
Dr. Leon Sones. Does both therapy and prescribing. 435 N Bedford Dr, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 Phone: (310) 276-6701
I obviously cannot guarantee any of these doctors will be the perfect fit for you, but they’re a good place to start, and can often recommend others. All of the folks below were recommended by satisfied patients. Good luck!
therapick.com - This website matches you with a local therapist based on your needs and likes, like match.com for therapists.
The Wright Institute - they will work with you on a sliding scale, 9911 W Pico Blvd #720, Los Angeles, CA 90035, (310) 277-2796.
The Maple Center. www.tmcc.org/ The Maple Counseling Center (TMCC) provides low fee counseling to people in Los Angeles on an outpatient basis 9107 Wilshire Blvd, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 (310) 247-4900
Oleg Liflyandsky M.D. Works out of Cedars Sanai and has an office nearby the hospital. (310) 535-7733.
Debbie Lipchik MA MFCC. On Sawtelle Blvd. in West LA. She does individual & couples (some group)… and gives excellent referrals. (310) 231-0356
Jennifer Pond. http://www.drjenniferpond.com/ Clinical psychologist. 5012 Chesebro Rd Ste 201 Agoura Hills CA 91301
Mari Marks. Psychologist. 11911 San Vicente Blvd, Los Angeles, CA 90049 (310) 472-2523. http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/name/Mari_Marks_PhD_Los+Angeles_California_78007
Gloria Dahlquist. Licensed Marital & Family Therapist. 4405 Riverside Dr #203, Burbank, CA 91505 (949) 244-3674
Rick Grant-Coons. Clinical psychologist.6404 Wilshire Blvd Suite 520 Los Angeles, CA 90048 http://drrickcoons.com/site/Welcome.html (323)-600-3348 firstname.lastname@example.org
Alison Roven. MFT. 2336 Malcolm Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90064 (310) 845-6957
Melissa Richman. Psy.D, LCSW. 9201 Wilshire Blvd #203, Beverly Hills, CA 90210 DRMAR@mindtx.org (310) 278-9702
Jaimie Schweitzer. PHD. 16055 Ventura Blvd #1220, Encino, CA 91436 (818) 906-1103
Lee Miller. MFT. (Formerly at Women’s Clinic and Family Counseling Center) 310.614.0323 11911 San Vicente Blvd, 280 LA, CA 90049
I took this picture of myself at the end of a day I spent in bed, scared and crying, feeling alone and hopeless and completely desperate.
This is the face of my mental illness. This is the face of my sadness when it is at its most inexplicable and its most pronounced.
I am not ashamed of it.
"Kiss the bears and the ponies, and perhaps some day I will see you again."
One thing that I quickly want to mention is that it’s especially hard to get mental health help if you’re poor, because the amount of work involved in taking care of yourself is so much greater and filled with so many more obstacles, that many of us just quit. It’s hard to pay for insurance, it’s hard to find an insurance that covers mental health even when you can afford it, not to mention that everything is hard when you’re depressed. It’s cruel how hard it is when that’s precisely the time it should be easy. Poor kids or immigrant kids also often grow up with a biased view of mental illness. We’ll live with it, we say to ourselves, we’re tough, we can do it. When you grow up poor, you are often of the mentality (like I was) that it’s not a “real disease,” like cancer or polio, that there is no time and no money for taking a problem like “feeling sad” or “worrying too much” seriously. But listen: that’s a lie. We often don’t go get help, or don’t continue trying to get help because of the way we grew up, because it wasn’t considered a “real problem.” I can tell you that in my Ukrainian immigrant family, it was so. We often treat mental illness like it can be put on the back burner, but listen: it can’t. Imagine you have a tumor in your brain, and it’s fatal. Because it’s true. Your brain is trying to kill you every day, by telling your brain lies.
Getting well when you’re poor is so hard. But it is absolutely worth it. You owe it to yourself to KEEP TRYING. Mental health is not a precise science, and that’s also scary and fucking depressing, frankly. It often takes many many tries to to get well, but please keep trying. When I first tried to find medication, I was in college in DC full time, working 2 jobs, and I had to take the train to a free clinic in Virginia. It was so hard to get there I found another doctor. I also went to therapy at the graduate center by my college, which was sliding scale and I paid $10 a session. Those things sound like nothing, but they were monumental achievements. Finding those resources was like swimming in molasses. I had a breakdown over every single one of them. I would cry and rage trying to find a doctor who would take me with no money, trying to plan my appointments around my classes and jobs, trying to keep from cutting myself and throwing shit while filling out a billion approval forms, while taking trains across town, while crying in my boyfriend’s car. Every part of it was hard. It took me more than several attempts with several different psychologists, psychiatrists, medications, and more than 10 years to live a life that doesn’t spiral out of my control at random times. During that time I stopped trying for years, suffering because I couldn’t fathom going through looking for another shrink because I moved, or changed jobs, or lost my insurance. I don’t say KEEP TRYING lightly. I say it with the scars of someone who has and still is. KEEP TRYING KEEP TRYING KEEP TRYING. It should not be harder for you because of your means, and I’m sad that in our society it is, but you gotta KEEP TRYING KEEP TRYING because your life is worth it. I promise that you don’t even know how good it can be. I know I didn’t.
Robin Williams is said to have suffered from severe depression before he took his own life. I’ve been in that boat for a long time myself as a bipolar person, and I cannot emphasize enough how much reaching out to people, and getting professional help helped me. I know how hard it is to find the right therapist, or psychiatrist, or medication, but I also know it is possible. I have found places that were sliding scale, or free, and even though it is immensely hard to work on things like that when you’re depressed, you can do it. You can do it, and there are people who can help. Other friends who struggle with the same thing have often been my lifeline and my perspective, and being there for them helped me too. Consider setting up checking-up-on-each-other rules with a depression buddy. It did eventually get better for me, with a combination of therapy and medication. It’s not a magic fix and I’m not perfect, but my life now is so much happier and more fulfilling than it ever was, and often I pause and marvel at how when I was depressed, I literally couldn’t envision a “normal,” happy life like this.
One of the hardest things to do when you feel hopeless is to tell someone. Please please take the first step and tell someone. If we’re pals, I will do my best to be there for you. If not, reach out to someone else in your life, and if there’s no one you feel comfortable with, call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You are important. You deserve a full life. Please let help in.
I love this video the LA Review Books made so much!! They did such a good job capturing what we’re all about. The footage is from the awesome SURPRISE! 2-year anniversary show, and features Ron Babcock and Kristen Studard being hilarious, plus some sweet shots of Johnny Pemberton, Cornell Reid and Identity Crush. Oh and the interview was really fun to do, watch all the way to the end because Rob does a great bit after the credits.
Comedy veterans Rob Buscemi and Sofiya Alexandra are the founders of a brave new comedy circuit in Los Angeles. They change venues each time, they keep their line-ups secret, and they lure their audiences in with booze, cookies and a promise that things will get weird. There may or may not be an orgy at the end of each show.
The show is called Surprise! Comedy and at its heart it’s about what Buscemi and Alexandra call taking the “scene-y-ness” out of L.A. comedy shows. They say the Surprise! format relieves pressure on both the comics, who don’t have to promote the show or feel the need to impress to earn a spot back (they might be invited again, but not for a while) as well as the audience, which doesn’t pin its hopes on a headliner and meanwhile gets to kick back and enjoy a party.
#tbt I drove my mom and my grandpa to the cemetery last Friday to for my grandma’s birthday, albeit a couple weeks late. This was the first time he couldn’t walk to her and I struggled to push him in the wheelchair on the bumpy grass in the heat.
#tbt to last week when I asked @hernia to sign me and @marcellacomedy up at a mic and this is what I saw when I looked at the sign up sheet. Yesterday I asked him with great concern if he was dyslexic and he looked at me like I was crazy and said “I didn’t write that”
#Repost from @marcellacomedy love this bitch —- Talkin shit bout all y’all with this bitch @thesofiya.
Detective Stabler looked at the weenie wagger with a mixture of disgust and righteous fury.
Total loves @peanut_lbj @joeywags #surprise
I love these people and I also love how our faces are not on the same page at all. @peanut_lbj @robertbuscemi #surprise
This is a picture I took at the #Venice canals yesterday while hanging out with @hernia. He thought it was a stupid photo but that’s because it’s an embodiment of us as flowers and it hurts his tender heart with #beauty and #friendship. #nofilter